Couples have big weight differences and can easily quarrel

Before losing weight

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Betsy is 31 years old and has been on the fat side since she was a child. She happened to meet Rom Chevey when she was at her thinnest college. When the two married in 2000, Betsy gained 11 kilograms and increased to 100 kilograms five years later. Roma's weight has always been within the normal range.

To Betsey's dismay, the increased weight difference affects the relationship between husband and wife. The two often argued, were disappointed with each other, and even considered divorce.

Recalling those unpleasant days, Rohm told a reporter from the "Today" Channel of the Microsoft-National Broadcasting Network that sometimes a few inadvertent words made Betsey angry. For example, he gave several examples of times when he felt that Betsy's clothes were inappropriate and said to her,"Honey, this style is not suitable for your body shape."

"I said this kind of thing without thinking about it at all, and I regretted it when I said it," Rohm said.

Betsy often worried about whether Rohm hated her body size and whether going out together would embarrass Rohm. At one point, she considered leaving and starting over somewhere where no one knew her.

After losing weight

Husband helps wife lose 34 kilograms

Later, Betsy made up her mind to lose weight and successfully lost 34 kilograms in 10 months. Based on this experience, she wrote "Ending Obesity", which was published earlier this month.

Recalling the days when she was busy losing weight, Betsy said that the focus of her life at that time was diet and weight. "I call them 'fat goggles'. It's like wearing glasses and only seeing fat," she said."Everything comes down to weight. No matter what I eat or do, I have to think about whether it will make me gain weight and whether it will help lose weight."

Betsy's success in losing weight cannot be separated from Roma's supervision and encouragement. During this period, the relationship between the two became increasingly harmonious.

Rohm said it is not easy to encourage his wife to eat healthily and help her lose weight. "If I say,'Skip dessert' or 'We shouldn't have dessert', she will think about her weight and image and feel bad." Later, Roma was diagnosed with diabetes and had to control his diet to solve this problem.

Couples with a weight difference of more than 20kg affect sleep

In 2011, New Zealand had a national sleep survey, involving 11,000 people, most of whom were women aged 25 to 54. 60% of respondents slept with their partner. Weight differences between partners can cause some sleep problems.

According to the survey, more than 40% of New Zealand couples have a weight difference of 20 kilograms or more. Unless a suitable bed is used, one person in the bed will turn around and the other will be woken up.

Weight differences Big partners are prone to disputes

This couple in the Alpine area of Utah is not the only case where weight differences affect their relationship. The "Today" channel conducted an online survey of more than 1500 netizens, and the results showed that 55% of the respondents said that the weight difference caused tension between themselves and their partners.

The Journal of Society and Human Relations published a report in December last year that couples with large weight differences, especially those with an overweight woman and a normal weight man, are more likely to have disputes, anger, and resentment than couples with the same weight range, thereby affecting communication between the two parties and damaging their relationship.

Researchers say that tension and weight gain are unknown who is the cause and which is the result, and to solve this problem, both sides must work together. "You have to think about how to get your partner to help you without getting angry at them... You have to be like a team and make the overweight partner feel supported," said psychiatrist Gail Sotez.