Lao tradition of marriage
before the establishment of the new china, the marriage between a chinese man and a chinese man followed the words of the father and mother, the word of the mother and father, and the word of the mother and the father.
since the establishment of the new china, there has been a gradual increase in the number of autonomous marriages, but the traditional protocol has been maintained to date.
the marriage ceremony consists mainly of betrothal and marriage.
if a man is interested in a woman, the husband's family is prepared to invite him (the media) to marry her.
the consent of the mother-in-law is required for the marriage.
after that, he took a gift and went to the woman's house for a drink.
after months or years, the husband invited him to his wife's house to serve his next of kin with a small order.
the husband then went to the wife's house to present a ceremonial gift, and held a wine bar at the woman's house, known as the “big order”, as an official wedding, a party to the wife's family and a request for her birth date.
since then, two families have started preparing for the wedding.
it takes three days for the wedding to take place, so the wedding is usually held in the winter or month after the beginning of october.
at that time, the crops had just begun to harvest, and when they were ready to kill pigs, they were well prepared.
at the same time, there is considerable time for preparation and celebration in the midst of agricultural idleness.
on the night before the wedding, there will be a `frowning night' (singing in the hall), an entertainment party for new people, with a full house of women's friends, and a table full of wine and 12 `dry dishes' (i.e.
dishes with peanuts, walnuts, dates, tomatoes, apples, oranges, candy, etc., with a full, happy, blessed, happy party).
the song is written in an inquisitorial manner, in the form of a question-and-answer, free and funny.
it consists of three main parts: praise for the bride ' s character and ingenuity; talk about the bride ' s bride price, the bride ' s dress, and the four-quarters of a year ' s agricultural work; and express the desire of the couple to live in peace with the bride and her family.
on the day of the marriage, the bride cried and married and paid her respects.
in front of the man's house, muby will perform a ritual of worship to drive away the “dream” attached to the bride and then bless the new man.
after entering the door, the new man was “red-red” and the new man was present in front of the shrine, offering to be married, to be joined by his family and friends, and to start the feast.
the next day, on the guest day, a feast thanks those who helped.
on the third day of the marriage, the newlyweds return home and the bride is brought home by the groom and his brothers with wine and meat to visit his parents, so that a new life can begin in the family。