Folk custom in the Song Dynasty: Li people value daughters over boys and treat daughters as treasures

Folk custom in the Song Dynasty: Ordinary people value daughters over sons and treat daughters as treasures

Focus reminder: It can be seen that whether it is the Northern Song Dynasty or the Southern Song Dynasty, the old people living in the capital are favored by their daughters. Their daughters have been regarded as the pearl of their eyes throughout their lives. If they give birth to a son, they will be very unhappy. Some cruel parents will even throw away the baby boy (not lift it).

In today's entertainment industry, there is no need to talk about its outstanding level: whether it is a talent show in which amateurs are attracted by the grassroots, or various variety shows that various TV stations have racked their brains and spent a lot of money to prepare, or stars and artists who have tried their best to gain popularity from their high prices... Everything is quite eye-catching. In fact, entertainment miracles have existed since ancient times. The entertainment circle of the Song Dynasty hundreds of years ago was also not inferior.

The more skillful and clumsy Qian Qianyi

When mentioning the three people in Jiangzuo, Qian Qianyi, Wu Weiye, and Gong Dingzi, it will make people think of such offensive words as unfilial, disobedient minister, and five unworthy of Jiangsu and Zhejiang provinces. Obviously, the vassals are closely related to the surrender of the Qing Dynasty, but are their actions really despicable enough to cause regret? This may not necessarily be. It's just that a loyal mind is the moral yardstick that people have adhered to in the past. The so-called starvation is extremely rare, and the loss of integrity is extremely serious. Therefore, it is reasonable for people in the past to be regretted for their loss of integrity.

Qian Qianyi, Changshu, whose word is Shouzhi, whose word is Muzhai, and many others, was the leader of the literary world in the late Ming Dynasty and a scholar. His position in the literary world is unknown without asking. Yan Ruoqu once said that there are only three people in China who are knowledgeable and proficient in studying, and Qian Qianyi is one of them. Huang Zongxi said of him: "The Four Seas have been allied for fifty years." It can be seen that his position among scholars is true. Although Gu Yanwu despised his character, he also objectively recognized that after Qian Qianyi's death, no one in Jiangnan could be higher than him. This series of comments made him famous at that time as a well-known and true leader of the literary world, rather than a charlatan who gained a reputation.

Although Qian Qianyi's reputation is great, his career has not been smooth. Although the ups and downs of his official career are the norm in life, for scholars, it is almost a stereotyped mindset to become an official after learning well. In the past, people had limited choices. Being an official was a broad aspiration of scholars, and Qian Qianyi did not make an exception. Moreover, he was not a person who saw through the world and wore hair and made a boat, which also determined Qian Qianyi's actions in his life.

If the Qing Dynasty was a major stain on his life, then apart from that, there was no sin in his life that could not be forgiven. On the contrary, the reason why Emperor Qianlong criticized him for his grotesque and absurdity was because he was angry at him for slandering his own dynasty and his heart was in the Han Dynasty. In fact, the suffering of subjugation cannot leave him with pain on his physiology. Descending the Qing Dynasty is both a conscious and helpless move. Wu Weiye said in "Poetry on the End of Life":"The anger in my chest lasts for a long time, and it is difficult to settle down when it touches things. How to eliminate the difficulty of understanding medical difficulties, but only to relieve the sufferings." It can be said that it expresses the knot in their cooperation. The reason why he was criticized was that he was not an upright gentleman. I can't deny that Qian Qianyi is just a talented figure who has read a lot of poetry and books, and his vulgarity and greed are no different from that of a businessman.

The "Eight Yanks of Qinhuai" at the end of the Ming Dynasty are well known to everyone. Each of the three in Jiang Zuo also got one. Wu Weiye and Bian Yujing had a heart-engraved relationship; Gong Dingzi married Gu Hengbo, and Qian Qianyi married the more famous Liu Rushi.

It is true that the love between money and willow is not as romantic as people imagine, and it is a business where each person takes what he needs. Liu Rushi is arrogant and arrogant. Although he is a prostitute, he has a chivalrous character. Wang Guowei even praised her: "I am very curious about how to dress up, but I don't suspect brothers calling each other. Don't blame my daughter for being too presumptuous, and the people of the Jimen court are so handsome." She first had a relationship with Chen Zilong, a celebrity in Songjiang. After the separation, she vowed to explore scholars who were more famous than Chen Zilong. And she chose Qian Qianyi precisely because of this. One was greedy for fame and the other was greedy for sex, so they had a marriage. When Liu Ru married Qian Qianyi, he was only 24 years old and his money was already in his sixties. An old man has few concubines. Even if he shows romance under the moon and before the flowers, it will surely make people feel disgusted. Publicly, their unity even aroused dissatisfaction among their neighbors. When they returned to Changshu from Hangzhou, the dissatisfied crowd even threw stones and tiles at the Lan Zhou they had returned to their nest.