Sieber tradition

there is a popular saying among the siberan people: “spring winds and twilight, autumn weddings.” sieber weddings are usually held in late autumn or early winter.

the sieber marriage is arranged in two steps, and is divided into marriage and marriage.

the bride-to-be runs at least three times to the girl's home; the engagement ceremony takes two times; the wedding is preceded and followed by a few days; the wedding home takes two days; and the mother-in-law's home takes three days, which is an unusual and intense event.

the parents will start to “talk to the daughter-in-law” for him when he reaches the age of 16 and 7.

when a suitable target is available, a well-meaning, well-known and familiar matchmaker is invited to the woman ' s home.

for the first time, a matchmaker and a man's parent are allowed to go to the woman's house to raise a marriage, empty-handed and without anything.

the purpose of the visit was to “see the road”, to make only general visits, to talk to each other and not to mention the marriage of children.

but when i say goodbye, the matchmaker says to the woman's family, “we'll come back later” — suggesting that next time we'll officially call.

once the guests have left, they will call a “family outreach conference” to seek the views of the family of the man and the professional and human qualities of the young man.

when the

medium and the man's parents visit the woman's house for the second time, it is customary to bring a bottle of soju as a gift for the bride, which is also an official token of the marriage.

after the cold, the matchmaker opened a bottle of wine and the same man's parents stood up to drink to the woman's parents and broke their minds.

if her parents agreed to the marriage, they would be happy to take it for a drink, and if they did not, they would not take it for any reason.

if consent is given, the parents of the woman ' s family will again consult the next of kin, and the daughter will be consulted.

when the matchmaker and the man's parents arrive at her house for the third time, they bring in a bottle of wine, and they drink and talk, and the topic turns to the marriage of their children, and the woman's parents publish the results of the discussion and agree to bring the boy to the interview next time; if the woman's opinion is not consistent, then the matter will have to wait until the time is ripe.

after waiting for a period of time, the man was informed that the woman was in full agreement on the matter, so that the matchmaker, the man's parents and the young man would go to the woman's house and bring two bottles of wine for a toast.

at the house of the wife, the future son-in-law salutes and salutes her elders.

girls hide and look at their future husbands.

in a moment, the future son-in-law will have to take up a double gin and kneel down and toast the future father-in-law and mother-in-law, which is the formal proposal.

as a rule, at this point, the marriage ceremony is almost over.

the betrothal ceremony is also an important part of the siberan marriage.

after the woman had promised to marry, the parties were prepared for the various engagements.

traditionally, the engagement ceremony took place twice, for the first time, called the "blank head" ceremonytogether with the future bridegroom and his parents, take two bottles of wine with red thongs to the wife's house, and the future son-in-law brings to the future father-in-law's mother-in-law and father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's father-in-law's brother-in-law's brother-in-in-law.

this day, the girl's house is ready for lunch.

for the second time, it was called a "wet headset" and it was still at the woman's house.

the man, after full preparation, sets the date and informs the woman and her immediate family.

on that day, his parents, son and matchmaker took the carriage, brought sheep or other gifts and wine to the woman ' s house, killed the lamb and cooked the meat, and offered hospitality to her family and their relatives.

in the booth, under the auspices of the father ' s parents and the matchmaker, the future groom shall bow and bow to his mother-in-law and his immediate family, and shall deliver to the future wife-in-law a gift of clothing and a gift.

after these procedures have been completed, the marriage is secured and the engagement ceremony is completed.

since then, the two families have become family members and become closer and closer to each other, and the men are sending gifts to their daughters-in-law, especially a dress for their future daughters-in-law, as well as shoes made by their daughters-in-law.

if for three years in a row there is no reason why the man should not “do his duty” to the woman, then she will opt out of the marriage contract; if she repents, the man will return all the bride price.

this is not so many, but it sometimes happens.

after the date of marriage has been set, each party begins preparations for the marriage, such as painting the house, equipping the clothes, preparing the livestock for the guests, etc.

on the eve of the wedding, the man is to hire a “o-father, o-mother” among his relatives to attend weddings and weddings.

mothers and fathers usually choose people who can speak the language and who are not widowed in the family, who are well-respected in the countryside.

before the wedding ceremony, where two days were served, the man chose a fat ram to perform the entrance ceremony, and was asked to pray to his ancestors for the safety and happiness of the newlyweds throughout their lives.

the lamb is then cooked, and the meat is cooked, with the choice of the full leg of the sheep to sacrifice the ancestors.

the bride's car leaves after breakfast.

the red caravan is accompanied by a glass of copper, followed by a gossip map, an olympic and a bride ' s escort, and is driven by the olympic father, who delivers the bride ' s home for the wedding.

the caravan is followed by a wedding car with two pairs of livestock, a pair of poultry and a gift of wine and so on.

in a brand-new dress, the bridegroom with a big red flower on top of the welcoming team.

as soon as the caravan arrives, the woman's elders and loved ones will come out and receive their gifts and slaughter the sheep for the feast.

during the wedding, the wife's family set up a two-day dinner, the first day of which was “a little dinner” for her immediate family.

the following day, the ceremony was officially held.

on these two days, the bride hides at her family's home, where the aunt or the cousin gives her a face in order to have her hair ready.

the next day, family members came and congratulated the "o-father, o-mama", the groom and the father-in-law for their busy hospitality, and the groom was to bow down to each of his elders and to drink.

pleaseon this day, the bride will send the bride's brother-in-law's dowry to the man's house, with a dresser, cotton covering, embroidery pillow, etc.

in addition, the bride will make one pair of shoes for the bride-in-law and the groom's brothers and sisters, and one or three pairs of shoes for the groom.

when the dowries arrive, the bridegroom ' s parents are to receive them with warm hospitality, to drink to them, and then bring the dowries to the door of the new room.

at that time, the bride's sister-in-law took the key to the lock of the closet, and the groom's parents put the money that had already been prepared in the closet, wishing the newlyweds a future full of gold and silver, rich and rich.

the bride ' s sister-in-law then locked the closet door and gave the key to the bride ' s mother-in-law, saying that she had the right to take over.

at the end of the evening of the sunfall, when dimba to the bride

, the "big dipper" is about to end, the groom and the father and mother, together with more than 20 able-bodied dancers, formed a "dimba" team to blow to the bride's house and greet her.

"dimba" is a handsome man with many talents.

friends of both sides split into two rows, dance and song.

the bride's relatives and friends will take the initiative to go to the dimba spot, and the dimbas will be able to solve their problems so that they don't get rid of the bride.

the great show ended late at night.

the families and friends who were sent back were left with a small number of immediate relatives.

the bride's mother and omei then began to make up for the bride, with long braids with wings, silver beads, foreheads, earrings, rings, bracelets, new colorful clothes, blanche buns, placards, crumblings, etc., as beautiful as fairies.

a brother-in-law or a cousin took the bride to the caravan, and his father-in-law gave his son-in-law a small bag with five grains of grain, and told him to go all the way and throw it in order to contain the demons.

the firecrackers were fired at the door of the

, and a dozen of the best dimbas left in their caravans, and the groom opened the road in front of the caravan, where the shouts were loud and loud.

such a car carrying a bride would not allow any vehicle to move forward, and if two caravans met, the respective “dimbas” would lift up the right wheel of the caravan and hang it over the centre of the road, splitting the road, because no bride would be able to delay on the road, but would have to get to his mother-in-law at an early stage.

the bridegroom and bride come to the door of the house through the earth, the groom on the left, the bride on the right side, on the opposite side of the door, the bridegroom lifts the bride's veil with whips, the new man and woman kneels and puts the sliced sheep's tails on the stove with “hada” to make a “white head oath”.

then he came to the house, where he held a ceremony to sacrifice the gods.

after worship, the bride will wear embroidered shoes and not walk on the floor.

the bride and groom then went to the room, where the bride was to give a gift to the mother-in-law ' s elders and to give to the parents-in-law and uncles-in-law the shoes they had made in their own way as a gift for the family.

at the end of the cumbersome manners, the bride, accompanied by the bridesmaid, sits in the tent all day.

the third day is the day of the bride's weddingfriends come to congratulate, warm and noble.

the party is to be attended first by the woman's “salsa” (honorant), with the male and female guests sitting in separate seats, with the father and the mother, and the man's elders being greeted.

many of salsa's people can say yes, and they can say it with a sense of humor.

in addition to their own laugh-making programmes, they often bring out omula, the father of austria, and let them sing "wedding songs " to cheer everyone up.

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