Hmong marriage culture
the custom of marriage
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, on “probate marriage”.
match: it is a way for young hmong men and women to enter into a relationship, one to the first five years of each year, and the hmong men and women sing to each other, dance, and find the object called a string called pairs, the last day of the hmong festival, and each of them decide to go home and tell their parents.
(b)
: when a young man tells his parents what he's looking for, the man invites the matchmaker to the woman's home in three or seven days.
forced marriage: the matchmaker goes to the woman's house with the relevant items, and the date of the marriage is set after agreement between the parents on the marriage, usually not half a year.
marriage: after the date of marriage is fixed, the woman prepares her own dowry to be married.
ii, on “marriage”.
“raising” is also called “robbery”, “trawling girls” or “robbering girls”, which is a strong marriage tradition that is incompatible with modern civil society and gradually eliminated.
the young hmong men meet hmong girls on the road, and if the girl is seen, whether or not the girl wishes, the young man may take the girl back to her home, invite the matchmaker to visit the girl's house for three to seven days, and betrothed to a wedding, and the girl will be the daughter-in-law of the young man from the day she was robbed.
iii, on “adoption”.
the whole village knows which family has children.
the father or mother of the son ran outside the neighbor's house, and if the neighbor's house is a “girl”, he says, "my son recognizes!" since then, the two children have accepted the marriage contract, and the young girl is raised by her parents until the age of three, and is brought up with the boys until the age of eighteen, married, served a wedding drink, and offered a “gold” for marriage.
iv, on "marriage." in the hmong tradition of marriage, “marriage by word” is more common, and “marriage by word” is more complex than “marriage by marriage” and “marriage by marriage by marriage by marriage by marriage, by marriage, by marriage, by marriage and by marriage.
: hmong youths are in love with each other through social events such as “home mountain”, “crowd streets”, meetings, uphills and fields, and once a relationship matures and their parents become addicted, men are invited to drink with their young men's uncles and to kiss them.
if the woman has the intention, drinking is a “yes” and the matchmaker is invited to discuss the silver, the wedding, the dowry, etc., which consists of silver, milk money, diapers, wine, meat, etc.
orders: if the wife is willing to marry the man, the date of the decision is said to be the date of the date of the marriage, the man will give the pig to the woman's house, and the woman's house will treat her to a meal, which will be `scheduled', that is, the engagement.
for marriage: if the husband's wife is to be married, the matchmaker must go to the woman's house two months in advance to negotiate and the woman's home has a bar to decide on the date of the marriage.
(b)
: the man chooses the best day, two days before the matchmaker informs the woman that she is ready for her new life.
on the day of the marriage, the young man ' s uncle picked up two chickens with a freckle cage, took the silver, led the bridegroom, the groom and a happy couple, and two young men of midday ' s choice, accompanied by a matchmaker, went to the bride ' s house.
i'll stay at the girl's house for a whileafter the visit, the groom ' s uncle handed the silver to the bride ' s uncle and handed it over to his parents.
the following day, the uncle brought the chicken to the house, one to the house, and one to the house, believing that the bride had a spirit, together with the bride, to take her to the house and pass on her name.
at this point, the family took nine family members with their relatives to the men ' s house, and then left after midday.
at the men's house, there are three bars, each with liver, larvae, tofu and cigarettes.
the new ones are on the left, the matchmaker on the right, one seat each, enter the room after dinner, sit in the middle hall and receive tobacco tea.
after prayer, a new person will be brought to a solemn handover ceremony where the two “seniors” will express their empty wishes in the form of an exchange of songs.
after that, the bride is officially handed over to the man.
in the evening, bonfires are set on fire in the house, and family members and family members sit around the fire and talk to chang-gi or solo and enjoy.
only those who send their relatives are prohibited from leaving without permission and must be with them until dawn, when they are delivered by breakfast.
most hmong communities have a high degree of marital autonomy, and young hmong people have a traditional form of free socialization with the main aim of choosing a spouse.
xinxi is called a “crash edge” or a “magic girl”, while xianxi is called a “showing side”, guangxi is called a “sitting sister” or “go-away”, xinxi is called a “stomping moon” and some western hmong are called “jumping flowers”, “jumping grounds”, etc.
in such social events, young men and women can sing and talk to each other in groups or individually, openly or quietly.
love in the form of songs is one of the most representative and ethnic-based customs of the hmong marriage culture.
some hmong communities also have special places for young people to fall in love, such as the south-east courtyard and the girls' room in north-east fifeng.
the hmong youth choose not their property or their family, but their personal talents and qualities.
when you find a suitable lover, you can exchange love.
in general, parental consent is required for marriage.
in most hmong areas, the existence of autonomous marriages between young people and arranged marriages between their parents is not necessarily an irreconcilable contradiction, depending on which tendency is more important.
in general, both parents and children respect and consult each other, and forced marriage is rare.
moreover, social customs allow and uphold the free choice of young people.
thus, more often than not, the marriage is contracted by the parents after free love.
as a concrete step, young people have agreed that the man, after consultation with his parents, invites the matchmaker to the woman ' s home.
as a rule, a woman ' s parents do not object, sometimes using a chicken to determine the feasibility of a marriage.
once a marriage has been contracted, the parties negotiate the date of marriage and the bride price.
before entering into marriage, the man must deliver a sum of money or other property to the girl's uncle's family, which he calls “uncle money”.
if parents do not agree, young men and women can run away and seek the support of relatives or social forces for a long period of time, and parents recognize the fact of the situation.
there are, of course, parents who follow their orders, and a few who suffer emotional tragedies as a result of parental arrangements.
the custom of marriage
is a form of free marriage between young men and women who enter into a couple through free love in the context of the "travel" campaign.
from knowing to get married, to acting on your own will, to being married to yourselfthere is absolute autonomy.
this is currently the main form of marriage for hmong youth.
freestyle: a marriage that has been introduced by relatives and friends while the two have been in love with each other and voluntarily.
when a young man knows each other at a festival or on a regular basis, he or she may ask his or her relatives to come forward and make a marriage with her or her family's consent.
since then, the two sides have further developed their understanding, their feelings and the conditions under which they can marry.
says that the homogeneity tradition encompasses two forms of marriage: marriage with a strong ethnic identity, which is still prevalent in the county, is a relationship between a man and a woman and their parents。