A strange wedding custom in Ankang, Shaanxi Province: the groom was stripped naked, tied to a tree and splashed dog blood

Recently, a news story that the groom was stripped naked, carried away and tied to a tree, and was splashed with dog blood. Finally, he was sprayed with a fire extinguisher once again attracted people's attention to the bad habit of "getting married." Marriage is the top priority in life. From ancient times to the present, there has been the custom of "making marriages" in various places. However, today, some stereotypes and bad habits in weddings are getting worse, making marriage customs "faint" and vulgar.

A netizen at

wrote: "Being a groom in Ankang requires rebirth. If I have to do this, I would rather be single... At first I thought it was a joke, but later I saw clearly that it was an insult to my dignity..."

Why are bad marriage customs getting worse and worse?

In recent years, at weddings from rural areas to cities, from ordinary people to celebrities and rich people, vulgar "marriage disputes" have become more and more intense, and there is a tendency to have no lower limit. There are three reasons: First, unhealthy trends such as "pan-entertainment" and "entertainment has no lower limit" have spread in society. Some weddings have lost their original blessing meaning and solemn ceremonial form and have become entertainment farce., giving "marriage" people the "confidence" to mess around. Second, the newlyweds and their families are influenced by the so-called "customs" and dare not refuse the nonsense and torture of relatives and friends in the name of "getting married". They can only force themselves to laugh and accept it, adding to the "courage" of the "getting married" people. Third, some onlookers either add fuel to the flames with a "spectator mentality", or join in with a herd mentality of "not taking advantage of anything, but not taking it for nothing" and "the law does not blame the public", which encourages the "bandits" of those who "make marriages" to make trouble.

In the past, it was the custom of young people to have a wedding house when they got married. The purpose was to enliven the atmosphere and join in the fun. However, they are generally relatively civilized, and their playful words and deeds have a certain measure. In recent years, some places have somehow become more popular to play bridesmaids, and the more they play, the more vulgar and crazy they play, and some even rape has occurred.

Marriage is a festive event, and it is only natural for relatives and friends to help with it. However, some people with evil intentions take advantage of the bride and bridesmaid by taking advantage of the wedding customs. Generally speaking, brides and bridesmaids always swallow their anger in order not to affect the festive atmosphere. However, this kind of patience and tolerance has actually contributed to the spread and growth of this unhealthy trend.

Experts on

: There is nothing wrong with making things noisy. Pay attention to the "critical point" Folk experts said that "making things noisy" actually has a long history. In ancient times, most people married blindly and silently. Many people lacked pre-marital interactions. In order to alleviate the awkward atmosphere between newlyweds and help them enter the role of husband and wife more quickly, terms such as "making things noisy in marriage" and "making a wedding chamber" gradually came into being. However, nowadays, some uncivilized phenomena of vulgarization of weddings have caused debate in society about whether "marriage trouble" should still exist. It is difficult to determine for whom, how, and whom. Today's young people are active and open-minded and cannot grasp the "critical point" of marriage, so many vicious incidents have occurred.

"Tradition" should not become a protective umbrella for crime. Marriage is a happy event in life, and weddings must be lively to appear festive. This leads to traditional customs such as making trouble with in-laws, grooms, and brides. It would be lively to embarrass the groom and bride at the wedding, and to make games to make fun of the atmosphere. However, once it goes too far and turns sour, it would violate the original intention of custom. If you break the bottom line of the law, you will have to be punished by the law, and happy events will turn into bad things. Traditional customs cannot be an excuse for breaking the law, let alone a protective umbrella for the perpetrators.

Nowadays, this kind of "playing bridesmaid" is a veritable sexual harassment and sexual crime. This unhealthy trend seriously violates citizen morality, violates human rights, damages the physical and mental health of bridesmaids, pollutes social atmosphere, and some even commit crimes. We should not turn a blind eye and laugh about it. Wedding ceremonies should be prohibited from using rhetoric that inflame the flames or tease bridesmaids; bridesmaids should not swallow their anger because they are afraid of affecting the host's festive atmosphere. The judicial department should deal with violations of the law seriously in accordance with the law, completely eradicate these bad habits attached to weddings, stop this unhealthy trend, and make weddings civilized!

How to eradicate bad marriage customs?

To resist vulgar "marriages", we cannot rely solely on individual "self-redemption", but also on social correction.: First, it is necessary to strengthen the supervision of "bad marriage customs" and "fake marriage customs", clarify the main responsibilities of the government's cultural guidance, and help people establish correct customs concepts. The second is to strengthen guidance, and correct guidance and reminders must be provided in marriage registration offices and other government departments involved in weddings. The third is to standardize the service industry and widely promote the concept of civilized weddings among enterprises and institutions engaged in wedding services. We will start from multiple sources and adopt a multi-pronged approach to correct bad marriage customs and practices on the normal track of civilized and harmonious traditional marriage customs and culture.