Nassi, Li's dam

the past nassians of the lijiang dam have also introduced monogamous and parental arranged marriages in marriage due to the increased cultural influence of the han people, who in 1723 are leading in the policy of land restitution.

the marriage of a child and a child is the responsibility of the parents and the medium is arranged to marry the cattle, the sheep, the pigs and the wine.

marriages are in line with the traditional chinese ethics of the four-decree husband-songling women and lijanasi is more likely to be married to han and tibetans.

within the community, a person with a different family name may marry between them, but marriage with a family member is absolutely prohibited.

the marriage is arranged by a booking, a drink, and a wedding procedure: boys grow to five.

when they were six years old, their parents paid attention to finding him a daughter-in-law, and asked mr.

baldwin or the priest to order eight words for the birthday, or to go to the temple to burn the incense.

if the girl in question coincides with her son ' s birth, the parents send a bottle of wine to her son.

if the woman ' s parents agree, the marriage is to take place at the age of 10 or so.

at the time of the engagement, the man is required to deliver a gift to the woman, for the first time known as a “bourbon”, and the man is given to the woman's rice 2 litres (approximately 20 pounds), a wine table (approximately 5 pounds), red sugar 2 to 4 boxes and tea 2 packs.

among them, sugar, tea and wine are indispensable gifts, and the amount of the rest is determined by the man's wealth.

after a little wine, either party can turn its back if it feels that the marriage is inconvenient.

if the woman wishes to retire, she must return the gifts received to the man's family, who wants to break the contract and inform her of the decision.

after a year and a half later, the man gave her a second gift, called "big wine".

in addition to a gift with a little wine, a cloth (about 7 feet), two clothes, a pair of jade or silver bracelets, 30 pounds of pork, cash, etc., will be given to the girl, in red colour, to be delivered by the matchmaker and his family and friends.

the women treated each other with a wine table, and the guests drank from the men ' s house, praised the wine and sweetness, and congratulated the two families that were married.

a pot of wine and two boxes of red sugar or some grafts for the man is delivered by the woman after the bar.

the man will also offer her wine back to his ancestors and treat his relatives and friends.

after the great wine, the parties can no longer regret the marriage.

the day after the delivery of the “big wine”, the male relatives went to the women's meeting, where they began to exchange visits.

every year between noon, mid-autumn, winter and three festivals, the man invites the medium to send a plate of rice (about 5 pounds) to the woman ' s home.

in the case of tea, two packs of red sugar and, in some places, while the harvest farmers were busy, the man asked the fiancée's wife to help cut the wheat for a day and chose to send one or two of the high-quality wheat gifts as a “private house” for women.

every spring, unmarried men and women find a companion to accompany them to the other ' s home for the rest of the year.

in case of family problems, assistance is provided for easy access, but the unmarried couple cannot talk to and contact each other and must strictly observe traditional ethics.

at around 20 years of age, fongjie is married, and nassi is called "shu mio, meaning "to marry a daughter-in-law".

the wedding is conducted by capable elders of the groom ' s family and assigned to the same family.

a few days before the wedding, the groom's courtyard had to build a bouquetThe door and the courtyard were set up for a plaque.

Rich people also wear ceremonial lamps, paintings and plasters everywhere.

At the top of the door frame of the inn, a sifter with red paper and three arrows with willows or peaches were placed on it, and the well had the word “in here” written on it in order to exorcise it.

On the first day of the official family visit, the matchmaker leads the man's family, friends and drummers, carrying the bride's clothing, cloth, wine, meat, rice, sugar, tea, moon cakes and baits (after the rice or lunar rice has been fertilized, then crushed in wood), adding 30 to 50 cents to the value of the past, to go to the woman's house, to blow and fight along the road, which is so unholy.

The woman placed the man ' s bride price on a table in the yard and held a simple ceremony.

The presenter returns when she has had tea or lunch at her home.

During the night, the men's house was set up in the yard with candy, honey, wine and tea to accommodate young people from the neighbouring villages.

Young men and women celebrate by singing their wedding songs, dancing and laughter.

The girl's home also caters to young men and women in this village, singing the song "Marriage" .

Young people dream of a happy life for the future, dancing to the end of the night, and the groom and a young boy or friend of both parents living in a new room, commonly known as "Stamp the Bed".

The next day, the official reception, the big guest, was called "Big Wine".

Early in the morning, the man's matchmaker, drummer and friends, with the clothes they had to wear at the bride's wedding, went to the bride's house to welcome the bride, changed the bride's new clothes, the red coats, the red coats, the headlines and flowers, and covered with red headscarfs, while worshiping their ancestors and other parents and friends while crying.

The bride takes a sedan or walks, depending on the economic conditions of the man ' s family and the distance he travels.

But she must be accompanied by her elders, brothers, sisters and companions to the man's house.

She must be accompanied by a dowry, which usually consists of two large wooden cabinets, two pairs of boxes, two to four beds, several sets of clothing, one or twenty pairs of embroidered shoes, fire, copper pots, copper pots, copper dishes, copper spoons, copper locks and copper buckets, as well as dressers, to the man's house with the bride: One of the men in front of the escort team opened the road with a torch made of tarmac, intended to remove the obscenity, evict the evil, the good fortune, and en route, “Youths fighting to steal the bride's face's red headpad, and when they got their hands, the bride would trade it back with sugar.

The bridegroom wears a long shirt and a horse and wears a hat to greet her at the door (and also goes to the woman's house in person).

As soon as the bride arrives, the groom opens up the curtains, helps the bride out of the sedan, and then bows and thanks to the family.

When the bride enters the door, she must cross the straight-threshold “brand” to be placed on the door, meaning that she crosses the “brand”, even if he is a member of the family, the bride and Shinya.

After worshiping the ancestors in front of their ancestors, or in the kitchen, the bridegroom will immediately be replaced by new shoes with red wires, indicating that they will never be separated from each other in the future, and then leave the new room for the guests.

The brides took off their red coats and made up.

After a while, the bride comes to the groom's house and holds a "several ceremony" in which the elders of the groom's first generation worshipFinally, to the guests.

At the end of the ceremony, and in accordance with the traditional practice, the male and female guests are seated at the table of the male and female guests, the brother or nephew of the bride is honoured as the guest of honour, the chief, the female guest, and the bride ' s mother and companion are most respected: the rest of the guests are accompanied by the younger relatives.

At least six bowls of the feast, the groom presents his drink to the guesthouse, the bride comes to the guesthouse for advice, and his family and his family take a drink and wish the new couple the same.

At night, young people sing wedding songs, wedding songs and joys around bonfires, sometimes all night long.

The host presents his guests with wine, tea, guacamole and sugar, as well as the bride and groom.

The higher the pleasure, the greater the glory and the blessing of the master.

On the third day, the new guy comes home, and she's serving.

After breakfast, brides and grooms dressed in make-up, accompanied by their male and female companions and relatives, go to the woman ' s province and bring gifts such as tea, sugar, meat, bait, etc.; as soon as they arrived at their mother ' s home, the bride cried and expressed her eagerness to meet her parents and brothers and sisters.

Upon arrival, the new couple worship their ancestors, then their parents and elders, and lastly to the guests: The bridegroom is three and nine and the bride is four and eight.

The guests drink their best wishes and give the bride some gifts.

The young women, both male and female, went to the table of the bridegroom and the man's companions to drink, and at the same time to make trouble for them, for example, by putting a fan in their big bowls of security; by placing a piece of meat together with ponytails or hair, and piling up rice and so on; that night, the couple had to go back and not stay with the girl, who should give her daughter and son-in-law a gift of wine and sugar.

On the fourth day, if the groom and the bride are close to Ligang City, they will travel with Ligang City Street to distribute sugar to the relatives and friends of the road.

On the fifth day, the bride returned to her mother's province alone, with her mother.

Sister, date.

The parents again educate her about the rules and manners in which she treats others, life and so on.

But the bride had to return to her husband's house that night.

In the case of marriage, a cousin, who is prevalent in Nassi, Li'an Dam, is preferred to be married (in Nassy, “Abejimai”, meaning “the aunt's daughter may be identified as his daughter-in-law”).

In accordance with traditional custom, the father ' s son has the right to marry his cousins in preference, and even if the cousins are fools, the cousins have no right to refuse to marry.

The uncle allowed her to marry an outsider only if she was disabled or was not fit with her son。